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Can we stop saying "men"? Because I for one would think that shit was funny if a woman said that to me. No progress is ever going to get made if everyone just keeps painting with such broad strokes.
Omg I did this once (in a completely non-snarky way too, I was just really happy with my outfit) and the guy actually got super upset about it. I just told him: who do you think picked out my outfit and put on my make up and did my hair? Yeah, I did. So yes, I am aware and happy that I look good, no need to be upset about that.
As a man, men need to get over themselves. Ladies, don't stop what you're doing. If a man can't handle your response, it says something about them.
Man...the paranoia and fear that some of you are running around with is unreal! And this is coming from someone who has had two different, legitimate stalkers, and many other creepy other things happen like with being followed and whatnot. It's literally just someone saying they like your shirt or something as you pass by. No need to run and find a safe space or blow your whistle. And the only times I've ever had a compliment "retracted" was not after saying thank you, but after saying NO thank you. It's an ego thing. They'll get over it and so will you.
On those rare occasions when I do feel like proffering a compliment, I can accept an agreement with it and just go on with my life, my ego is not dependent on the acceptance of the compliment...sometimes it just feels nice to give a compliment regardless of it leading to anything at all 😎
In full disclosure, I have PTSD from my ex, so your mileage may vary 😂
To be fair, I like people who are humble. Even if I compliment a man, I don't want to hear a cocky response. But the difference is that I wouldn't retract my compliment just because he responded in a confident/cocky way.
I think the important thing to remember is that someone doesn't owe you anything just because you said something nice to them.
I told a stranger who sent me a private message, telling me how amazingly beautiful I am, that I didn't need him to validate me in any way. We were both part of the same support group for abuse-victims and clearly this guy was no victim.
My response send him over the edge and he exploded with hate and disgusting accusations.
Guess he has a hard time getting laid 😂
There is a difference in being confident and being just plain arrogant. One makes you more attractive and one makes you less so. So I can see why the men would suddenly change their minds. I think if a man or woman responded in such a self centered way it would diminish the opinion of anyone who gave the compliment.
I say "thank you" because I'm polite. I say "I know" because, well, I do.I've never had a compliment retracted because of it.
I've had someone get pissed because I wouldn't give him my number, but I honestly had no clue who he was and hadn't even had a conversation with him.
I'm old fashion, but If someone is giving you a compliment, your first reaction should be a thank you. Anything else that comes after that is all you. Whether it be "I know" or "right" or "always been" thanks should always proceed that.