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I think a lot of superficial compliments are subtly used to probe the self esteem of others. People are looking for weakness to manipulate. It is easier than being honest about one's own faults.
This conversation is just genuinely confusing to me. I'm a millennial in his mid twenties and I see these posts all the time and honestly it's mind blowing... Since when did messaging someone allow the justification of being a crass, rude, stuck up pig? Just because it's not a face to face conversation doesn't mean you can say whatever you want. Technology may have made the world easier but definitely set our accountability back a great deal. Sorry on behalf of 'those guys'
I cant stand those men that want an independent woman but when they meet one its like nah i cant be down with that. Why cause we dont call you daddy and want our electric bill paid? Grow up. Downing a woman by her body or what she has going good for her dont put you on some higher pedestal. It makes you a small petty little b....
Whether it's a man or a woman, I say thanks but I act like I know. It is not to piss anyone off , I just know my strengths and weaknesses. I do think " tell me something I dunno " and Don't say it out loud. People expect modesty but why a fact is a fact ...
I've done this many times, since my early 20's. Everyone thought I was crazy, but NO ONE ever kept messing with me. Some smiled, some looked away because they didn't know what to do next and some would act "offended" but they all left me alone!
When a woman agrees/accepts a compliment from me in the way you describe, she makes my day. It's like being winked at or flirted with by a woman, both of which feel wonderful.
Some men just don't get it. You need to act with some decency and respect. Because the woman who just turned you down has friends. Also there are other women at the bar, club or social gathering. If you act like a rude fool, then all of those other women are going to see it and there you just blew your shot with about 50 other women right there. No woman wants a man who can't handle himself.
That kind of response tells me everything I need to know about a woman. It let's me know she is playful and doesn't herself too seriously and it tells me she isn't going to need me to shower her self esteem with compliments on her appearance daily. Both are qualities I enjoy.
I know I am going to get eaten alive here... but here it goes. If someone I don't know, or that I don't have a close relationship with, gives me a compliment on how I look, I will just say thank you, or better yet, just compliment them back. I would feel like a complete dick saying "I know." Why is feminism always about women behaving more like poorly behaved men? This to me actually indirectly displays that masculinity is still ranked higher than femininity even within PC circles. I actually feel that men should behave more like women in many circumstances. To me downplaying a complement (unless it is a joke with friends or family) is good manners. Sadly our society seems to be becoming more conceded every day. To me this should not be a male / female issue. If I tell a male coworker or some other guy that I am not close friends or family with that he has good fashion or that I like his haircut, and his answer is "I know" or if he further compliments himself, then I would think that he is a complete conceded dick. For me, this also applies to women. No double standard, I treat both men and women (and myself) the same in this regard, have never liked cocky people.
Men basically are giving us their permission to be attractive in their eyes when they give a compliment. We're not allowed to find ourselves attractive unless a man says we can. We're also not allowed to agree, Because having self knowledge of our own attractiveness is seen as "conceited". Stupid boy mentality if you ask me.