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I love when you ask a woman for coffee and they read that to mean you are hitting on them or asking them out. No I like coffee and I like conversations and engaging with people. Gender doesn't play into it. Or when they overtake you while walking and then few paces ahead turn back act all nervous and walk like you are stalking them. Or when you order a chicken sandwich and all you get is just bread and lettuce... hold on what was the question again?
I don't know what kind of men you guys are dealing with. Isn't "thank you" a perfectly normal response to a sincere compliment; and I'm not talking about some bullshit, off-handed, lame remark? Maybe it's a generational thing.
How many ladies also get called racist when they turn down a man not of their own race? I've had it happen a few times when I was younger and it infuriated me because I told them straight up I had a boyfriend, which they refused to believe and insisted I turned them down because of race, not for the fact they were being an asshole lol.
I've done this before. I've also countered when they tried to insult me. I remember in my mid-20s, I pissed off some guy for some reason. Probably didn't respond to him "correctly" as I just was trying to cross the street. As I crossed in front of his car, he yelled, "You're not all that!" Without even missing a beat or a step or turning to look at him, I gave a huge snap in the air and yelled back, "Oh, yes I am!" That can be more fun because they expect you to crumble at their inept attempts at insulting you.
I've had a guy come up to me in the grocery store and ask me for my number. I bluntly said no - my choice- and he replied "Ah, I was just kidding"RIGHT..!
I think saying a gracious "thank you" workout being haughty is more classy. I'm not saying that i don't agree wth this article to a point, but I've always believed in being humble or be humbled. I mean, if your boss complimented a job well done would you be like, "yeah, i know i rocked that, thanks" with a dismissive attitude? I think you'll get more out of life with sugar than vinegar. Love yourself, absolutely... but be classy and not obnoxious about it.
I think you ladies are generalizing "MEN" into a pretty broad category.... A real man would never try to introduce himself to a woman he found attractive by saying "nice body"..... Grown ups don't talk to eachother like that, and any guy who does is just a boy.
I've found the most powerful response to a well-intended compliment from someone is a genuine counter-compliment towards them. As far as rude/creepy intended compliments, I usually pretend like I don't hear them and keep walking lol. It's not rude to walk away from a disrespectful encounter or a non-genuine compliment.
If a compliment is genuine you don't need to have the other person swoon at your words, how they react doesn't matter. The moment the reaction matters it means that your "compliment" had some alternative intention. In this case, thirsty guys that resort to being fake to get a girl cause their genuine self is shot. Good way to weed out the ones who are not worth your time from those that are.
Umm... If "men" are getting mad that you're accepting their compliments, then you're clearly not talking to men. Moreover, maybe understand it's an attempt at banter? Yeah, it's lame. Guys are lame. We do guy stuff and get speechless when we see boobs. We like light, fun things and try to make jokes about everything, even when it's the most inappropriate moment. But it's all just to see your pretty smile, because that makes us more speechless than even boobs. Can we all stop gender hating just because we have a bad dating experience?